Category: 40 till 40

{40 till 40} day 38

Stop & smell the coffee  I’m not sure this qualifies as a lesson I’ve learned in my 40 years, but it’s something that I’ve grown to appreciate. The little things. Things that some people take for granted, or overlook,   

I take great joy in. 

Like, fresh hot coffee. 

or snow days. 

or Sunday drives. 

or homemade cookies fresh from the oven. 

or Christmas music. 

or snuggling up on the couch with a good book/laptop & my favorite pet beside me. 

or a date with my hubby, even if it’s just going to get coffee… 

or happy time spent with my teen. 

or sitting on my swing in the sunshine. 

or lunch with friends. 

The little things in life make me happy. 

Proverbs 14:30 “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” 

Proverbs 17:22 “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”   

**Speaking of snow days, today is a snow day!!!!  Enjoying my coffee as I type.  Received my first Studio Calico monthly scrapbooking kit yesterday, so I am planning on scrapping a lot today!!!  Tune in tomorrow after 40 till 40 and hopefully I will have some scrappiness to post! 

{40 till 40} day 39

May sound like an odd thing to say, Satan isn’t stupid, but as a Christian, in today’s world, we need to be reminded of this.  I need to remember this.  As a mother, a wife, a friend, a woman of Christ, I need to be prepared for the temptations of the world, day in & day out.  This is a day to day struggle as we stand firm in our faith. It’s important to remind myself of this as I see his (satan’s) work in the lives of those I love and those around me.  He is trying hard to destroy those whose hope is in Christ. Satan knows exactly what your weakness is.  He knows exactly how hard he needs to push before you are willing to give in. 

He is a liar.  

The Bible calls him the father of lies.  John 8:44 says “You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” 

He will tell you what you want to hear. 

He will make the lies seem ok. 

He will make the sin seem not so bad. 

The old saying could apply to him, “give him an inch & he’ll take a mile”.  Give in to his ways, little sins that don’t seem “that bad” and he will continue to creep further and further into your life. 

Whether it is the sin of adultery, lust, greed, or gossip.  Satan knows how to twist the truth enough.  Just the slightest bit, to make it seem like the truth.  To make it seem like it won’t hurt anyone, that it’s for the best. 

We need to remember this!!  We need to be ready!! 

The Bible tells us in 1 Peter 5:8:  “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour…” 

But remember, God also tells us what we can do to fight against the devil.  James 4:7: “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

I’m not saying that I have learned this lesson and I’m done.  I’m saying that this is something that remains on my mind as I see families, (especially Christian families) around me crumble.  I feel that Satan has “gained control” of most things in today’s world…the media…music…TV…movies….what is left? 

Where can he cause the most damage? 

In our homes.  In our families.  In our children’s lives.  In our marriages. 

Stand firm!  Be vigilant!  Resist the devil!  

{40 till 40} day 40

Whew! Can’t believe it.  In 40 days, I will be 40! When you are young, 40 seems like forever away, but suddenly, you find yourself approaching 40 and wonder where time has gone. 

SO,  I have decided to blog, what I am calling “40 till 40”.  Basically, it will be 40 lessons that I have learned / or am learning.   Some may be funny….some may be serious…we shall see where this takes us! 

God’s plan is the best. This is a lesson that has taken me the last 15 years to learn & accept

Prior to getting married, I took for granted my fertility.  When dreaming about your marriage & future family, most girls never stop to think about infertility.  It’s not something that you question.  You assume that you will be in charge of the size of your family, (depending on your beliefs about birth control).  I always pictured myself, husband & 2 kids.  That was the size of my family growing up.  It seemed like a perfect number.  One parent/one kid.  Never imagining that even conceiving one child would be difficult. 

But, God had other plans for my life. 

One child.  Not 2.  Not 5.  Not 19. 

One. 

One child that took over a year to conceive.  Month after month, many negative pregnancy tests, many late periods, hopes would begin and then be dashed.  I couldn’t understand it.  Why?  Why me?  Why us? 

But it was God’s timing.  Not mine.  He was in control. 

Finally, I was pregnant.  I was more than ecstatic.  I had dreamed and waited for this!  Then 3 solid months of “morning-n00n-night” sickness set in.  I was miserable, but it was ok.  As long as God was protecting the baby inside me, I was fine with not feeling well. 

9 months later, a healthy, beautiful boy was born.  He was (& is) a precious gift from God. 

But, I was still planning out my life.  Thinking that I knew what was in store for us, as a family. 

So, almost 2 years later, we began to desire another child.  Seemed logical.  A playmate.  A brother or sister.  But, that wasn’t what God had in store for our family. 

Now, my son is almost 16.  No brothers.  No sisters.  Just him.  A single blessing from God. 

Is this what I had planned for my life?  Was this the family I dreamed of?  No. 

Did I have many times that I questioned God?  Absolutely. 

It made me doubt myself as a mom.  As a woman.  As a wife.  People all around me where having more children.  Not me.  Wasn’t I a good enough parent?  Didn’t God think I could handle more than one? 

For 15 years I struggled with those questions.  Yes, I knew that there are many women that would love to have one child.  I understand that & I am very thankful for the one that I do have. 

Do I always understand why things happen in my life?  No.  Does God’s plan always align with mine?  Definitely not. 

But I’m ok with that now

God has walked me down this path for a reason.  His reason.  God’s plan is best. 

It’s not always easy.  Nor do we always understand it.  But, God’s plan is best.

The Bible tells us in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  In Proverbs 16:9, God tells us “In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.”   

God’s plan is best.